I have been doing some research today and came across a book that is referenced below. I have not downloaded the book but did download the .pdf that has some good information in it. I thought I’d share the following as it really does highlight the core issues that survivors face: self-worth, autonomy, emotional expressiveness, gender identity, and sexuality.
More specifically, these issues include:
• developing a steady sense of self-worth and letting go of their sense of themselves as worthless and shamed,
• setting boundaries on the behaviors of others such as learning to say no when they do not want to do something or asking sometime to stop a particular behavior and do something else instead,
• standing up to others who want to bully them or boss them around,
• developing capacities to identify, regulate, and express emotion in ways that are appropriate to the situation,
• having a strong sense of self and not be talked into doing things they regret later, while still being open to what others want,
• establishing intimacy which often involves learning to manage slights and not being swallowed up by hurt and shame when slighted or hurt,
• as parents, being authoritative and not authoritarian or permissive with children,
• negotiating cooperative relationships with others in the workplace,
• accepting themselves as females and males and no longer feeling as if they do not measure up to what they think are ideal standards for their genders,
• coming to terms with and working through any affects that the sexual abuse may have had on their sexual identities and sexual expression, and
• learning to understand sex as an expression of love and intimacy.
* taken from ‘Child Sexual Abuse: Child Survivors, Mothers, and Perpetrators Tell Their Stories. By Jane Gilgun PhD and Alankaar Sharma, MSW