Monthly Archives: April 2009

been there…done that….got the tshirt…


Had a wonderful conversation with a new friend today and we were discussing our vision for Voice Found.  One of the things that is really important for us is to focus our intention on the present and the positive things that healing brings.  Celebrating life…looking at the wonderful stories women who have moved on from trauma and being victims to feeling empowered and moving forward.  This does not negate the past.  It does not make the experience disappear but it provides the focus on living.    Really and truly living.

This may sound strange to some but I am grateful for what the abuse has brought me.  I am grateful for the lessons I have learned through healing.   It is a part of who I am.  It does not define me but rather it has contributed to shaping me.  While not all parts are great, they are parts of who I am.   And who I am is a wonderful human being.

This new friend of mine has agreed to work with me to bring ‘Voice Found’ from vision to reality.  She read some of what I had written and decided she needed to meet me.  I’m so glad she made the connections through a mutual friend and reached out.  She is a vibrant, intelligent and compassionate woman who has a common vision.   To help other women heal and celebrate the lives they are meant to live.  We both agreed that digging through the past is important but that is not where we want to focus our intention…’been there….done that…got the tshirt’…….NEXT!

Voice found is about what comes next.  Stay tuned for more news in the coming weeks.



voice lost

I silence you

not with my hands

not with my mouth

but with your fear.


that dance of cold shadows

imagined and unimagined horrors

it is that which takes

your voice.

Breaking the Conspiracy of Silence….


Today I discovered a new offering from Darkness to Light.    They have partnered with  Kathleen Brooks to offer an internet radio program that can be found here:

I am so encouraged to see an internet radio show that focuses on raising awareness of childhood sexual abuse.  This is a global epidemic and ignoring it will not make it go away.  It is  uncomfortable to talk about and horrifying to think that it really happens but covering our ears and turning our backs on the problem will not make it go away.  The facts are that in Canada,  ONE in THREE girls and ONE in FIVE boys will be sexually abused before their 18th birthday.   This is unacceptable and there IS something you can do about it.  Start talking.  Take action.  Learn how to prevent, recognize and  react responsively.

One of the ways to do this is to educate yourself and I highly recommend you look into a program called ‘Stewards of Children’.  For those of you in the National Capitol Region, I am an authorized facilitator and more than happy to set up a workshop.  Simply drop me a note and let’s make it happen.  To find other locations that can offer this workshop check out Darkness to Light at

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Frank